I was at a small Fourth of July gathering the other night. The party was hosted by a local, syndicated talk radio host. Most of the men there are, or were, in the radio business. We women are the wives and girlfriends of these men. And none of us is in radio, although we do listen to the radio. We are in varied lines of work: finance, pharmaceuticals, domestic engineer, freelance writing and copyediting ….
Without fail, when we get together with this group of people, the conversation inevitably revolves around radio frequencies, radio personalities, radio scandals, radio history, radio this, and radio that. Occasionally, one of us women will make a comment or add our two cents. But more often, we listen for lulls in the radio conversation so that in a somewhat hushed voice, like stage whispers, we can carry on our own conversations. “How did your sister’s surgery go?” “I saw a great movie on Lifetime last night.” “Can’t wait for the cruise! Which ports are we visiting?”
This bothers me, and it made me think of the old social custom where, after dinner, the men would retire to the parlour to smoke cigars, sip brandy, and talk about … men stuff. And the women would …. I guess the women would sit around the dining room table or head to the kitchen or the sitting room to talk about … women stuff. In fact, I saw this not too long ago while watching the classic film, The Spiral Staircase.
I recognize that this practice still exists to some extent, but it’s not expected or widely accepted. (Thanks a lot, Women’s Lib.)
Perhaps at the next social gathering, I will suggest separate party areas: men over there, women over here. Now … can we talk?